How's this for an absolute paradigm. One of my close friends, he came to Qatar some 10 years ago when he was a fresh fresh grad. Immediately got offered a job with big responsibility in this company I worked for (years later, that's how we met), for a while. In a very short time, he found himself being the chief engineer in the company and basically second in command (!). Turned out he became my boss later, but really we were buds, he didn't give a shiit about the "hierarchy". He got married to a pretty, positive-minded lady, got a great looking little boy now, second on the way. Has the car he wants, a big villa in a superb compound complex, friends...and every time we would get together for a beer, he'd tell me about his problem. He had no motivation in the morning to get up and be 'himself', and he kept complaining about that, emphasizing it was a real issue...I told him he had way more than what most men needed and could hope for, and stability was an exceptional thing to achieve these days, but again he insisted it was lingering. The last time I saw him, he actually told me he wanted to leave the company, one he has PERFECT relationship with and wherein everything is in order and he has ZERO threat, nobody in his way, nothing but go-ahead space.
The thing is, he says he isn't challenged there any longer but how long before he doesn't feel challenged in this other company he would've gone to ? Depression is deeper than mere circumstances; you can be happy living in a shiithole with very little at all, and you can be borderline suicidal in the most "perfect" of settings. For some ppl, the awesomeness of life just doesn't come easy..I've at least 2 or 3 other major cases in my close surroundings. How do you get a sense of purpose back into those minds ? I do reiterate that sometimes, something that helps is seeing how much worse it could be, something on tv or wtvr, and you feel pretty darn fortunate after all, but of course that's not a therapy in itself, but is something we should always carry around.
