Violent Women

[mickywicky]

I think they're generally led to believe it's ok to throw tantrums and the like... To quote some teen I heard on the street a few weeks ago "It's the hormones, she can't help it innit?"
I respectfully disagree. My hormones tell me I should sleep with every attractive woman around, and you don't see me trying that do you? (If only my significant other understood that... :wall: )

I remember this guy who came to my dad's hospital in Botswana once, with a broken arm. Apparently his wife has beaten the sh*t out of him. And guess what we all thought? "He must have cheated on her, the *******."
Now imagine a woman coming in with a broken arm saying her man did it. We'd all be thinking, "He must have been drinking, the *******."

We're ********, they're victims. Whatever we do, whatever they do.
:ranting: :ranting: :ranting: :ranting:
I rest my case.

 

[Laetca]

I'm starting to feel guilty here just for being a woman, it's not like ALL women are 'biatches' who are going to hit the living daylights out of their partner, then start crying to get away with it, humiliate a guy and blame it all on hormones then.
Just like not all men feel the need to sleep with every woman they meet.


Also, on the hormones bit, you don't know until you tried it, aparantly the main difference between man and woman in that respect is that while a man's hormones are in general telling him the same 24/7 (which is, reproduce), a woman's hormone levels change each week. Which is not amusing, not for the people around, not for the woman in question. If it's any consolation, not all women feel this in the same way, most will never have mood swings caused by hormones. That doesn't mean it's not possible.

 

[mickywicky]

I'm starting to feel guilty here just for being a woman, it's not like ALL women are 'biatches' who are going to hit the living daylights out of their partner, then start crying to get away with it, humiliate a guy and blame it all on hormones then.
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You certainly shouldn't feel guilty for being a woman, I mean, most of us are made to feel guilty about being men and that's partly what we're moaning about here.
And thank Heavens not all women are like those "biatches" you speak of, they don't sound very nice
I guess my rant came across as harsher than I meant it to. I meant that even we men generally perceive things that way, because it's usually the way it happens. We just never assume the reverse could be true. And I'm just as guilty as everyone else.

Also, on the hormones bit, you don't know until you tried it,
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I certainly don't know what it feels like, I'm usually on the receiving end (only bloke in my home/work/close family). But I can see what it's like.
For what it's worth, all my significant friendships save one are with female colleagues/ex-classmates/etc.
I think in such cases most men can at least understand, but none of us like being subjected to "collateral damage"

Just like not all men feel the need to sleep with every woman they meet.
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Nah, we're usually far more discerning than that.

/me is getting married 3 weeks from now. Looking forward to it. Surely I can't be that bad then?

 

[Laetca]

Congratulations on the marriage
And, if you're the only guy in an all-woman environment, my compassion, it can't be easy (then again, it must be really handy when it comes down to asking someone's advice about what not to wear).

I wasn't personally offended, I just felt like a counterweight had to be provided. I don't really believe anyone here thinks all women are like that. And the only time I thought all men were ******** was a few years ago, after too much drinks and a broken relationship. In hindsight, that was a pretty funny moment
What I meant was that of course these cases shouldn't be forgotten, and certainly not silenced, but it's luckily an exception rather then a rule.

Something related, they passed a law in Spain this week that enables judges to send a guy charged with domestic violence to jail for a minimum of nine months. For a woman in such a situation, the minimum time is 3 months. Talk about unfair.

It's true that in this case, guys are the victims of sexism.

 

[redunderthebed]

<div class='quotemain'> My ex hit the hell out of me she left a big bruise on my arm and thought it was funny. I told her not to do it again or I'll give her a twak. Yep she did it again and I told her biartch I'm not religous I don't beleive in all that don't hit a woman crap and it's the new millenium so I gave her a 1 hitter quitter right in the side of the arm.

I think these days biartches need to realise when to shut their mouths and stop going on. So next time your woman hits you or does anything violent toward you mann beat dat *****. [/b]

Good on you mate...she was no lady...she was a ***** who deserved everthing she got. That bloody woman thought it was a free bash men sort of world

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Indeedy.

Act like a lady you deserve to be treated like one
Act like a toerag who thinks they can get away with that shite because they have the flange and you deserve to cop it.

 

[Laetca]

Where do you draw the line at 'being a lady'?
I like being treated like a lady, but as soon as a guy refuses to have a discussion with me because he thinks it's 'wrong to argue with a lady' then I'm out of there.
I'm speaking out of experience now

How does a lady act? And how are you all gentlemen to your ladies? Just wondering

 

[C A Iversen]

Scary subject really. I agree that there are an ever-increasing number of women who are hitters and society is ignoring it. There are less men doing than there used to be, as society has changed a little over the last 50 years, but unfortunately, it's still guys far in front in this category.

It's a symbol of a very toxic and unhealthy relationship if this stuff creeps in. My wife and I have been together for 7-1/2 years (married 3 of those) and you could count on three fingers how many times there has been any violence.

The first time was when we'd been going out for about 2 months and I told her I was going back to my ex, (I was just having her on to see her reaction), and se screamed "You b*stard!" and punched me in the nose and knocked me down. Her biceps are almost twice mine (in a fairly healthy sorta way) and it hurt a lot! I started saying, "Iwasjoking, Iwasjoking, Iwasjoking!!!" as fast as I could. I laugh now.

The second time we'd both been drinking and she'd done something to upset me and I kept trying to explain how she'd made me feel and she basically said she didn't care or something like that and we argued for about an hour about it. Then I was very stupid and I pushed her, she fell backwards and was sat down onto her behind. I was immediately sorry and we both abandoned our stupid argument.

The third time was again drinking and we both pushed each other. Nowhere near as hard as the second incident and neither one of us fell over. It cooled down pretty quickly after that.

That has been the extent of it for us in a long relationship. It's still not ideal, but luckily we work on our communication skills and the last of these times was more than 3 years ago now.

I reckon if you ever stop caring about how you are making the other person feel, it becomes easier to do these things.

I'm lucky I don't have a violent woman because she'd be more than capable of beating me into submission, lol.

I do think girls are more violent than they ever were before, but there are a lot of girls now who think their "rights" mean the right to do anything they want. Still, there are a lot of girls like my Amy (and possibly Laecta) who are too soft-hearted and nice to get violent, except on the rare occasions that call for it.

 

[Gay-Guy]

Wow that was really honest of you to share that Criag.



Well I might as well admit I was in a violent marriage. My ex is half my size and she pretty much abused me verbally, emotionally and physically from the early stages of our marriage. I suppose I did deserve her abuse....but eventually her violent ways became too much as it became almost daily....so I thought to hell with being honourable and just taking it....so the next time she went on her usual violent way I punched her arms and kicked her legs.....effectively disablng her from attacking. Well all that did was start her new strategy of crying out as the abused woman. Our lives became this cricle of an argument, her attacking me, me disabling her, her crying domestic violence. Even my family started to think that I was a wife beater.

Eventually I blame myself for trying to make things work when in fact it had gone into abuse....I should have just walked out on her....so I suppose abuse in many ways can often be because people like myself allow it.

Probably the scariest thing about it all was that I had accepted the violence as normal. I believed that there was nothing wrong with it....that it was all part of being married.

Well the good thing about it all was that I chose someone after it who is so not into violence in a relationship.



So yeah...I have no sympathy for anyone who is a violent aggressor in a relationship.

 

[Dmx#1]

Where do you draw the line at 'being a lady'?
I like being treated like a lady, but as soon as a guy refuses to have a discussion with me because he thinks it's 'wrong to argue with a lady' then I'm out of there.
I'm speaking out of experience now

How does a lady act? And how are you all gentlemen to your ladies? Just wondering [/b]

I refuse to speak to woman at all because according to Kazikstan Dr Yamuka a womans brain is the size of a squirrel. Therefore it is a waste of time to say communicate with them. A definition of a lady is "a house lady" aka Woman with no rights. I can't speak for everyone but I am a man in a Gentlemens club kind of way.

On more serious note, Iverson and Gay Guy that is some deep **** and that was very brave of you guys to share that. I know my cousin (who was a guy) who went through the same ****. Its f***ed up too cause he's a niceuy g so he ends up getting treated like **** from girls.

 

[C A Iversen]

Well, to be honest when things like what I posted are read in a single post, it can look much worse than the reality is. I just had an add up and we have been together for 2,662 days and those 3 incidents would add up to 5 minutes out of 3,833,280 minutes together, so to be honest there's probably heaps worse out there.

I think the age we both are now and having a little one has helped us compromise on most things now instead of getting angry. Although like any marriage we have the odd moments of trying each others patience. More than 99% of the time things are really happy.

As for Gay-Guy's post it sounds like that was a very toxic relationship for you both. The woman you were with was obviously devious and sneaky in conveying your relationship to others, which is dangerous territory. You are well out of that one mate. You'll find different girls bring out different aspects of your personality, so I'm glad the best is being brought out of you now.

 

[Incredible Schalk]

Very good point, its just part of society really that no matter what the circumstances its wrong to him women. I couldnt do it, thta is hitting them full force, but there is nothing wrong with restraining them. I have been hit countless times by my ex, its so pathetic it barely needs a reaction.

 

[Dmx#1]

Very good point, its just part of society really that no matter what the circumstances its wrong to him women. I couldnt do it, thta is hitting them full force, but there is nothing wrong with restraining them. I have been hit countless times by my ex, its so pathetic it barely needs a reaction. [/b]

You should try going out with an Islander girl

 

[BLR]

You should try going out with an Islander girl
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Considering he is from the UK I think a Russian girl would be about equal strenght wise....

 

[Incredible Schalk]

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You should try going out with an Islander girl
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Considering he is from the UK I think a Russian girl would be about equal strenght wise....
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Well i came from a famous berry picking area so at this time of years we get loads of Poles and Czechs over, they will do h34r:

 

[Gay-Guy]

<div class='quotemain'> Very good point, its just part of society really that no matter what the circumstances its wrong to him women. I couldnt do it, thta is hitting them full force, but there is nothing wrong with restraining them. I have been hit countless times by my ex, its so pathetic it barely needs a reaction. [/b]

You should try going out with an Islander girl
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Yep that was my mistake.....Island girls see violence as acceptable...and they do not hesitate to use this method. You may be lucky and strike a nice one who won't wack you hopefully.

 

[Dmx#1]

<div class='quotemain'> <div class='quotemain'> Very good point, its just part of society really that no matter what the circumstances its wrong to him women. I couldnt do it, thta is hitting them full force, but there is nothing wrong with restraining them. I have been hit countless times by my ex, its so pathetic it barely needs a reaction. [/b]

You should try going out with an Islander girl
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Yep that was my mistake.....Island girls see violence as acceptable...and they do not hesitate to use this method. You may be lucky and strike a nice one who won't wack you hopefully.

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True theyre all hard too no exception, even the ones who didnt have a Islander upbringing are hard. It must a genetic thing or something *Shrugs shoulders*.

 

[Steve-o]

Maybe there's something in water. This is why you should never have a steriod factory right next a river!

 

[Dmx#1]

Your wrong Stevie O, Taro is a natural steriod

 

[Steve-o]

Exactly. Natural steriods and natural aphrodisiac's should never be mixed, the consequences can be dire

 

[Laetca]

This reminds me of a remark of a friend of mine a few weeks ago, he heard that the there was Oestrogen (probably spelled wrong) in the water in the UK, which is why all the men there have moobs.

What is an Island girl, and why are they known for using violence?