I think the issue is how so much of this is treated as zero sum, that support of one must be interpreted as an attack on the other. I've had some very frank talks with my GF and it's amazing hearing her side about the problems women face (particularly when it comes to medical issues, that was a real eye opener for me) and her hearing about the issues men have with respect to mental health. A lot of people suffer in silence and attempts to make their concerns known are thrown away. It's like you can't bring up issues in one group without someone saying that the concerns of another group are being ignored.